Brett Cotter is an author, founder of Stress Is Gone
retreat facilitator with more than 20 years of experience helping people heal
trauma and overcome stress and anxiety. Cotter recently took time out from his
busy schedule to talk with Natural Awakenings
you get into the stress/anxiety/trauma-relief field?
In 1999, I was 27 years old and seeking new ways to fix my
problem with jealously. It ruined relationships repeatedly. One night, three
separate sources guided me towards meditation, so I listened to the universe.
My first solo meditation rocked my world, forever opening my mind—like it was
waiting to happen for lifetimes. Then, a highly referred psychic helped me see
there’s a divine intelligence all around me. I was captivated by it and wanted
to learn how to access it. She referred me to a healer who helped me transcend
the fear that was fueling my jealously. He also helped me remember my true
strength is in my vulnerability and every answer to every question lives inside
The next year, I was
volunteering in a Chinese energetic medicine clinic in Marina Del Rey,
California. One night, there were about 30 people and the group leader couldn’t
make it. I was asked to facilitate. Immediately after that session, my
colleagues came to me and said they want me to run the group from now on. I was
shocked, but took on the responsibility and haven’t looked back since.
has made the biggest shift in your life from stress to happiness?
When I first got into this work, I went gangbusters with
healing my own heart. My burning desire was to transform my heart; this was the
catalyst that drove me to experience healing in many one-on-one sessions and
group workshops with my first teacher. My goal was to return my heart, and my
ability to give and receive unconditional love, to the state it was in when I
was born. My quest was to heal all the major scars on my heart from this
lifetime. At a certain point on that journey, it felt like a critical mass was
healed within me—like I turned a corner into a new life and was reconnected to
an ocean of innocence, happiness and spirit.
factor would you say makes the biggest difference for your clients?
The transformation that happens in our coaching calls and
the retreats. People say they experience an emotional heaviness lift off their
body that is replaced with a strong sense of self. Their stressors no longer
affect them in the same way because the trauma the stress triggered is gone.
It’s like imagining your stressor doing the same thing it always does but your
body has zero reaction. Once the emotions are out of the way, I usually coach
people to cultivate a new response—sometimes a gentle inner chuckle by
imagining a small bowl of salad at their center. Every time they jiggle the
bowl, the salad laughs like the plants on the old TV show The Magic Garden.
That little inner chuckle is followed by unconditional love for yourself and
the most important thing you’d like to share with our readers?
Kindness is the key for humanity and unconditional
self-love is the doorway to living a kind life. Energetically, unconditional
love is expansion and our universe is expanding. That’s why love will always
prevail; it’s in alignment with the universe, and like a moth to the flame, we
all seek it because innately we are one with it. Love helps us remember the
divine when we feel lonely, kindness when we get frustrated and safety when we
People will get to experience Cotter and the Stress Is
Gone Method at his upcoming transformational weekend retreat—Break Free from
Anxiety and Heal Trauma Naturally—at Honor’s Haven, in Ellenville, from
December 2 through 4, 2022.
information, visit StressIsGone.com.